Inconsiderate Friend Brings Dog to Dog-Free Garden Party, Gets Mad at Host When It Eats Poisonous Plants

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/TheCornStarMum • 20h AITA for not being upset that my friends dog could die because of me? Not the A-hole
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    Font - I was hosting a big garden party at the weekend. I invited my entire friend group plus their partners, one of my friend takes her dog everywhere. I told her no pets were allowed. Although it was a garden party we were in and out of my home and I have 4 cats. My cats do not like dogs and neither do I. Anyway my friend showed up with her dog, I told her that her dog was not welcome in my home or garden. And asked her to please take her dog home or elsewhere.
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    Font - I thought my friend left. I went inside to sort some things out. I went into my garden about 15 minutes later and my friend was standing there in my garden talking to our friends. She doesn't live that close so I was confused. I went to ask her how she got back so quickly, she told me she just popped in and was going since her dog isn't welcome. I asked her where her dog is and she shrugged her shoulders and said he was around.
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    Font - I went looking and found him at the bottom of the garden eating my crops and making a mess. I was angry and told my friend to get her dog off my property. A few hours later she called me asking me what her dog ate, I had no clue. My gardener plants and attends everything, I told her I didn't know, but told her he'd made a huge mess, dug things up and clearly eaten things.
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    Font - She shouted at me that her dog is sick and that I need to find out what the dog ate. I told her I had no idea, but I'd text my gardener to ask, but it was really her problem. I did send the text, but my gardener didn't answer. My friend called again wanting to know what her dog ate, but I told her I still didn't know. She told me I obviously don't care if her dog dies and called me an АН. I still don't know what her dog ate, but apparently he is very sick and might die. I feel bad, but I
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    Font - Update - I blocked ex friend after dozens of nasty calls and texts. But I got an update from a mutual friend. The dog is at dog hospital, dog is pretty sick, but is expected to make a full recovery. I managed to contact my gardener eventually, it looks like the dog ate some potatoes or something? A lot was destroyed so even my gardener isn't 100% sure what was eaten, but he thinks maybe the pesticides were the problem. All info from gardener was passed to ex friend.
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    Rectangle - mizfit0416 20h Professor Emeritass [94] A 3 Awards NTA - You asked her nicely not to bring the dog but yet she did. You asked her to leave but yet, she didn't. She wasn't even WATCHING her dog. If the dog dies, it's on her. ⠀ Reply 434.1k ↓
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    Human body - judgmentalbookcover 18h And don't let her bully you into paying vet bills or anything!!
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    Rectangle - Sharp Equipment5135 17h 1 Award Heck part of me would want to send a bill - because she had the garden professional done. That is not cheap. She was told NO several times. Then she not only did it but then because of her actions, the dog is now possibly dying. That is like taking your child to a public pool closed to the public with no lifeguard - being told not to be there and not only breaking in but leave a toddler alone and then coming back to a child drowning and raising hell at
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    Font - Dogs are basically toddlers - they will stick anything in their mouth and require supervision. They require an adult to pay attention and ensure the dog is safe - not rely upon others - who clearly stated NO DOGS to make sure their dog is ok. She should not have brought the dog, and when you told her no at the door and to go home - she should have taken it home. People don't realize the world does not want to deal with your pets. Leave them at home. I like dogs - love cats - defin. more o
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    Font - K BelkiraHoTep 18h Partassipant [4] I love dogs. Yes, I'm one of those people who like animals more than other people. People suck. I do not like OP's friend. She's not a dog person. A dog person would pay attention to what their dog was doing, would never take their dog into a situation where they're not wanted, and would never let their dog off leash in a large garden where they do not know what plants are around and what could be toxic to their dog. NTA, OP. I know that you'll feel bad
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    Font - atmasabr 20h Certified Proctologist [23] She told me I obviously don't care if her dog dies Well, who set the bar on negligence? You set a boundary not once, not twice, but three times, and each time your friend exercised less and less judgment, until she was actually negligent. I take you at your word that you actually made an effort to find out what her dog ate. I fail to see how you possibly could have done anything different other than express remorse. I do not believe your friend was
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    Font - DJ_HouseShoes 19h Partassipant [4] What's important right now is that you find out what the dog ate and then bill your friend for the lost plants and their replacement. Also NTA. Reply 43.3k TheCornStarMum OP • 19h I was thinking of asking them to pay for the damage, not sure now though!
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    Font - Apprehensive_Size484 19h I have 3 dogs, so I do love dogs, but at same time, since they are neither service, nor support, dogs, I would NEVER take them somewhere the host/s said NO animals/pets allowed. She brought her dog anyway, then instead of taking it home, she stashed it in your garden. You're NTA, and not only is SHE an AH, she's a very irresponsible and oblivious pet parent.

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